When I think back to my wedding day I have to admit that most of it is a blur. Everything seemed to happen so quickly and before I knew it the day was over and we were a married couple heading off on our honeymoon. All the months of planning were behind us. All the organizing, spending and trying to keep relatives happy were a distant memory. We said our vows, the marriage certificate was signed and the cake was cut and now it was all over.
If there is any advice I can give to a bride and groom on their wedding day is it this; Be Present.
What does that mean? First of all, your wedding day is not the time to be planning or organizing or making sure little details are taken care of. Let whatever is going to happen to happen. By now it's not important. Don't give it a single thought. This is Your Day and you don't want to be distracted with any last minute distractions. If someone is missing their corsage or the flower girl is refusing to walk down the aisle don't worry about it. Let it go and enjoy the day. Let me repeat that because I know some of your are the kind of people who like to organize everything! Let it go - enjoy your day - don't give a second thought to anything that might be missed on your wedding day. Trust me, it's not that important. What is important is that you are Present.
Being present is living in the moment. You are not thinking about the past or the future you are thinking about what is happening at that precise moment. When you are walking down the aisle you're not stressing about whether someone made sure there was a lighter handy for the candle ceremony or if the kitchen remembered to label the vegetarian dish on the buffet. It doesn't matter!! You are getting married and this is your time and your day. When you're walking down the aisle all you need to think about is what is happening right then. Look at the faces of all the people who are in attendance. Really see them. Look at your groomsmen or bridesmaids and let it register how lucky you are to have such great friends. See your mom or dad and how proud they are of you. Really pay attention.
I don't mean to go on and on but I can't stress this enough. You will never experience this event again. Drink it all in and focus. Don't let it slip by in a blur and get distracted with insignificant matters. Savor the sights, smell the flowers from your bouquet and the perfume your mom is wearing, let your mind register the warm touch of your best friend's hand or the warm embrace from your uncle. If you mind starts to wander bring it back. It's simply just Being Present.